Library Happenings

Henning School

With summer upon us, I will find myself once again adventuring out to find my ancestors’ graves in old cemeteries located across America. I feel that caring for the graves of my ancestors is more than a respectful gesture—it’s a meaningful way to preserve my family history, honor those who came before me, and stay connected to my roots.

Grave sites are often one of the few physical links I have to past generations. By maintaining them, I feel that I  help ensure that names, dates, and stories are not forgotten. A clean, well-kept grave is a visible sign of remembrance and gratitude. It says, “You mattered. You are not forgotten.”

Regular visits and upkeep—such as cleaning headstones, pulling weeds, and placing flowers—can also be a reflective, healing practice. It gives us the chance to pause, share stories with younger generations, and pass on values and memories that might otherwise fade with time.  This is easier when the graves are within a few hours of home.  The graves I will be visiting this summer are states away and oftentimes will be found out in the middle of a forest or field.  They are rarely visited and do not have maps showing where you might find a particular grave.

Finding the right paint for the headstone is the most crucial part, along with a great brush, and a cleaner that is not abrasive.  Having patience while I work and taking my time is also important when refurbishing the headstone. It is peaceful in the cemetery and the sounds of nature surround me as you work. I like to think of myself as the keeper of the family, I know that it makes my dad and mom quite happy.

This year, again, I will be taking my daughters along for the journey and in years to come I hope they in turn will take along their loved ones to continue the tradition. In many cultures, tending graves is a sign of respect and a family tradition. It’s a quiet but powerful way of teaching children about love, legacy, and the importance of remembering where we come from.  

Ultimately, caring for our ancestors’ graves isn’t just about the past—it’s about keeping family connections alive and honoring a legacy that lives on in each of us.